There’s no better time to improve your relationship with your child.

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Here’s what you should know.


  • In a country where depression (worsened by a drastic negative shift in lifestyle), difficult economic times, political instability, among other factors cripple the nation, the young population is the most vulnerable.
  • A parent is a key pillar in their child’s life.
  • Being a parent is a huge responsibility and sometimes is usually likened to a second job.

With the emergence of the Covid-19 pandemic, we saw a major shift in lifestyle and standards of living across the entire social spectrum. Parents had more time to spend with their children, to really understand them. Now, as the nation is struggling to stand back up, revert our social norms, we have to deal with the new hectic school schedules. As a result, it is hard to connect with a child who is often buried in school work.

Parents perform a pivotal role in the lives of their children. First and foremost, they directly influence their self worth and believes. You probably know that children are masters at imitation. A child will act, speak and behave just like their parents. A young man will naturally look up to his father, emulating his behaviors. It’s fair to suggest that a parent is supposed to be the first available role model to their child. And thus set the bar for the trajectory on which a child grows.

The parent has to commit their time, resources and energy to the development of this young being. Every action they take is supposed to help them grow. It’s a hard job because there is no defined, tested and proven formula to it, no book written conclusively on how to parent successfully.

We understand that the relationship between a child and their parent is key in developing their character, self esteem, knowledge as well as the relationship with other children and adults. But as children grow into their unique characters, they tend to grow distant from their parents. Young adults more often than not distant themselves, but why?

Here are few reasons we believe are the cause of this phenomenon. Slight disclaimer, this is not a scientifically accurate thesis. But it is an attempt at understanding human nature in this topic.

Fear

As children grow and become self aware and aware of their environment, they understand things differently and start to see them from their own perspective. Sometimes, their views may differ from their parents’. This generation has various views and ideas of life that the older generation didn’t have.

Currently, many young Kenyans are deserting the traditional education concept to pursue their dreams through talent and passion. They believe that what matters most is the ability to lead a successful career and supporting their families. However, the parents intend to hold onto the previous norms and ignore the urge to see what the future holds. The young generation needs motivation, direction and counsel as they pursue their dreams, but out of fear they shy away from including their parents and/or relatives because they aren’t pursuing the cliché Medical or Engineering program.

Hostility from parents

If as a parent, all your children hear from you is complaints and verbal abuse, they will most probably be a product of what you feed their mental faculty. This is the environment they grow up being exposed to. They will have a hard time approaching you on issues that are challenging them. The youth tackle peer pressure, low self esteem and difficult personal relationships but they end up seeking counsel from each other, usually ending up this the same misguided boat.

Peer pressure

All relationships vary, and true is the fact that parents are so busy trying to provide that they spend little to no time with their children. This greatly opens up the opportunity for peer influence. The company they keep plays a central role in the choices they make. More often they will resort to counsel that can lead them astray. This happens because most of the issues they encounter don’t reach the parent. The parents might finally realize the situation when it is too late.

As the children grow older, they learn more. Therefore, it is key that they have pillars to support them, as they chart over the sea of life. The support is crucial for their confidence, self esteem and relation with other people.

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5 Factors Interfering With Your Annual Goals

When are you at your happiest? I would say when I am stretched on my couch catching up on my favorite show. I believe each one of us experiences happiness as a result of different triggers that we individually recognize.

Today, I want you to challenge yourself for a moment. It’s halfway through the year and looking back at the goals you set at the very beginning of the year, how far along are you at achieving them? Did the Covid-19 pandemic affect your effort of achieving them in any way?

Many excuses are often forwarded when one faces such a challenge. Sometimes these excuses are even supported by the people in our inner circles such as our friends or close family members. Maybe they have valid reasons to back up their points but did you know that only 8 percent of people who set goals achieve them.

Here’s a closer look at how excuses lead to interference with our goals:

  • Regret

Have you ever missed the bus to work or a meeting because you slept for 5 extra minutes? We develop common habits through cultivation. We repeat them over and over until they become a semi-permanent part of us. If you begin to snooze your alarm each morning to get 5 more minutes of sleep in, it grows on you. Eventually, it is the end of the year, time has whisked by faster than you could notice and all yo can do is reminisce and imagine just how much time all those five minutes combined can make. You will have lost so much of valuable time. This is where regret comes in.

  • Laziness

To be good at tennis you need to practice more. This is true with any new skill, art or aspect of life we are interested in grasping. On the other hand, insufficient activity breeds low confidence and self esteem. This means you are no longer comfortable in your own skin. This attitude of self-sabotage is accompanied by excuses. ‘I can’t cook‘. Why do you think that? Have you tried and failed, or is it just baseless thought? Maybe the talent is inherent but if you don’t try it out, you will not discover the truth..

  • Poor self-confidence

Sometimes all the dismissive talk from members of our inner circles grows on us. Their words and actions become stumbling blocks on our paths. For instance, you might be thinking about venturing into a certain type of business but after pitching the idea to your mother (someone you really trust to advice you correctly) you feel discouraged about it. She lays all the possible challenges you might face when you decide to start. She probably tried to pertain the business herself and failed, thus the overcautious attitude. After considering her advice, you eventually decide to put the business idea aside. Boom! You are back to the state of zero initiative.

  • Dependency

So your mum advised you to avoid getting into business and you take her advice. Then you become stuck on depending on her views on all matters affecting your life. This affects your creative ability. What makes matters worse it that you tend to blame her for what happens after you do as she says. These excuses hinder your growth and the ability to think independently.

  • Poor knowledge of self

To know thyself is to be truly powerful. Many of us aren’t aware of our strengths or weaknesses. Without this awareness we easily fall victim to peer pressure. Before giving up on a goal this year try to use the 5 why system. Ask yourself a question and then try to find reasons behind it.

An example of a common issue is: I don’t want to cook.

Why? – Because am afraid of burning the food.

Now it’s clear to you that you have a fear of failure, which in this case is the burning of the food. This makes it simpler for you to move past this obstacle by thinking of ways to prevent the incident.

Joy, fulfillment and momentum are good for your well-being. But such feelings don’t come by themselves, you should cultivate them by achieving your goals and dreams no matter how small. Execute your goal strategy today. Like a hunter, study your goal and chase it down. Do not give up.

This year is still far from over. Make something good out of the remaining time. Stop making excuses and act.

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Do You Work Out Regularly? Here’s 4 Reasons Why You Should

Ever thought of participating in physical exercise before? If not, I bet after reading this article you will change your mind. There are numerous benefits to exercising no matter how little. The results are usually long lasting and beneficial to your health. Take a closer look at some of the ways it can be of importance to you.

Better sleep

When did you last sleep well? Many people in the working class are caught up with numerous domestic and industrial activities that consume a great deal of day time running well into night time. This means most people rarely get their recommended 7-8 hours of sleep. Scientists believe that for the human body to be healthy and fully functional we need that much. One way you can improve your sleep is by engaging in regular body exercise. The exercise tends to draw energy from the muscle and body thus rendering them exhausted afterwards, therefore, making the body demand adequate rest. The body rebuilds and grows itself. If you are suffering from insomnia try to workout and see the impact it will have on your sleeping pattern.

Boost of energy and mood


When your body is active in exercise it triggers the release of happy hormones. These hormones affect the way your body operates. Furthermore, your energy levels gradually increase over time. If you drift off at work because your energy and concentration is low, a great way to boost energy levels is through working out.

Improved health

Working out has great overall impact on your health. You have a better chance against lifestyle health problems like heart attack, diabetes and obesity when you regularly exercise your body.

Improved brain activity and memory


First, you get your brain activity to improve. Workouts trigger increased heart rate which translates to more oxygen to the brain. It further creates an environment for brain cells to develop. This process in turn proves useful as part of the brain that is responsible for memory retention develops. This is vital to your duties at work, school and every day life demanding high levels of brain activity.

Edit your schedule today and experience the impact of a regular exercise regime on your general well-being. We usually say health is wealth. Launch an initiative to find out the level of truth in this statement.

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